Couples Therapy
Understanding the patterns between you.
Our closest relationships often bring out the parts of ourselves we find most difficult to understand. You may find yourselves having the same argument again and again, feeling misunderstood, struggling to communicate, or wanting closeness but having difficulty finding your way back to each other.
You don't have to be on the brink of a breakup to begin couples therapy. Sometimes the desire is to strengthen a relationship, deepen intimacy, or understand each other in a new way. Other times, there is hurt, resentment, or distance that has become difficult to navigate on your own.
I see relationships as places where we can come to understand ourselves more deeply. The ways we respond to one another are often connected to our histories, expectations, and fears. Couples therapy can help make these patterns more visible, so that you can begin to relate to each other with greater awareness and choice.
What we might explore
Repeating conflict and communication patterns
Emotional disconnection and difficulty with vulnerability
Attachment needs and relational triggers
Resentment, trust, and repair
Differences in needs, expectations, or values
Intimacy, sexuality, and connection
Navigating transitions and changes in the relationship
How I work with couples:
I take an active, collaborative, and relational approach, drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Relational Life Therapy (RLT). EFT helps couples understand the emotional needs and attachment patterns beneath recurring conflict, creating opportunities for greater security and connection. RLT complements this by bringing attention to relational dynamics, communication patterns, and the ways each partner shows up in the relationship, while encouraging greater accountability and healthier ways of relating.
Together, these approaches help us look beyond the surface of an argument to understand the cycle you find yourselves in and how each of you contributes to it. I’ll help you slow down interactions that tend to escalate or shut down, make room for vulnerability, and work toward more honest and meaningful connection.
The goal isn't to never fight. It's to understand each other more clearly, navigate conflict with less hurt, and find your way back to connection with greater honesty and care.